98.3 TRY IT Social dilemma: Is it okay to tell your spouse a secret that a friend has told you?



ALBANY, NY (NEWS10) – Monday’s 98.3 TRY social dilemma came from Donna and is about secrets. Here is the mail :

Hi Jaime.

A friend of mine is angry with me right now, but I don’t think I did anything wrong. Here is what happened. My friend Carrie said something to me in confidence, and when she did, she said the obligatory “please don’t tell anyone”. I listened to her and gave her advice and we left. Of course, when I got home that night, I told my husband what Carrie had told me. I don’t believe in keeping secrets from my husband. The next time I spoke to Carrie we were talking about the secret and I said, well my husband thinks blah blah blah. Well, Carrie got mad. She said when I said don’t tell anyone, I meant don’t tell anyone. But I think one has to assume that, of course, I would tell my husband about it. I would never keep a secret from him. And keep in mind that he would never say anything to anyone, and he probably already forgot about it. But Carrie disagreed and is still very upset. So I ask you. When someone tells you a secret or something confidential, do you keep it only to yourself or do you share it with your spouse or partner? Do you think it’s okay to do this, or does it break your confidence?

Thank you very much for your help Jaime

~ Donna

Well, I agree with Donna about not hiding secrets from my sweetheart, but and that’s a big but, before someone tells me a secret, I always say, you know I go tell my darling because we have no secrets. Usually they’re cool with it.

What do you think? Has Donna broken trust or is Carrie overreacting? Let us know on the NEWS10 Facebook page or let Jaime know on the TRY Facebook page.


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