Should a 12 year old boy pay his own way while at grandma’s house

ALBANY, NY (NEWS10) – Today’s 98.3 TRY social dilemma came from Brooke and it’s all about family. Here is his email:

Hi Jaime. It’s Brooke and I have a question about a recurring problem with a family member for years. My 12 year old son’s paternal grandmother remained a part of his life, despite our failed relationship and then her death 3 years ago. She buys the rare gift, card, etc. However, she makes the effort to bring him over for a weekend 3 or 4 times a year. Each time she makes him pay for her own groceries and recently asked the waiter for separate checks to the restaurant while they were having dinner. She is by no means poor, and leaves for Florida in a week, and kept him waiting while she bought clothes for his trip, and did not offer to buy him anything . What do you think? Am I wrong to be aggravated? Asking a 12 year old to pay for his own dinner and food while visiting…which I actually pay for because he is just that, a kid. Thanks for any comments.


Wow, well, I think it’s good that she wants to get involved in her grandson’s life in some way, but ask him to pay when he’s 12, it’s too much. Waaaaa too much. If he was 16 or 17, it would be different and it could be a lesson in learning about money. But at 12…in my opinion, if she wants him to come to her house for a weekend, she has to pay for him while he’s there. That’s just my opinion anyway.

What do you think? Let’s help Brooke and let me know TRY the Facebook page.