The reception takes place 18 months after the wedding. Should I bring a gift?

ALBANY, NY (NEWS10) – Today’s TRY 98.3 social dilemma involves wedding gifts. Here is the mail :

Hello Jaime. My name is Annalisa. My friend’s wedding is coming up and I’m really having a hard time buying her a present. Normally, I wouldn’t think twice about it. But here’s the thing: they’re already married! My friend and her then-fiancé dressed up, went to town hall, and got married 18 months ago. Then they crossed the street and had a good brunch, just the two of them. It actually looks like a nice, romantic and intimate way to get married. I don’t know why they rushed. But that’s what they decided to do. But now she wants the party and the presents. For me, a wedding is about bringing family and friends together to see a couple pledge their love and become husband and wife at that time. To help support the newlywed couple in their new life together, guests bring gifts. But my friend jumped the gun. So instead of a classic wedding, it feels like a rolling cash grab where she has a ceremony long after she’s already been married in the eyes of the law. Am I wrong to think that his approach is a bit cynical, or at least materialistic? Thanks very much

~ Annalisa

I think Annalisa is a bit harsh on her friend. I would welcome the chance to celebrate with my friends and I wouldn’t mind buying a gift. But that’s just my opinion. Let’s help Annalisa.

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