Would you like to marry someone and keep ALL of the money separate?


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ALBANY, NY (NEWS10) – Today’s 98.3 TRY social dilemma comes from Marcy and is a bit disturbing. It is about having the money separated in a marriage. Here is the email I received:

Hi Jaime.

I am a divorced mom of two. My youngest is 11 and my oldest 17. I met a really nice man who wants to get married. But there is a problem. He wants all household expenses to be segregated. He only pays his expenses and I pay mine and those of my children. What do you think about that? My opinion is that if we get married, everything should be together. Hope you or someone listening to me can help me decide if it is a good idea to get married or not. Seriously, he’s a very handsome man, and he’s kind and good to my kids. But he won’t budge on the money. What would you do?

Thank you very much Jaime.

~ Marcy

Wow, well, I think that’s very concerning. I’m a bit old-fashioned and believe that when you marry someone you merge two families. But I know others feel differently. I don’t think there is anything wrong with segregated bank accounts, but ALL of the segregated money seems wrong to me.

Let’s help Marcy. What do you think she should do? Let us know on the NEWS10 Facebook page or let Jaime know on the TRY Facebook page.